Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Dating Women

Dating is a game reserved only for the most careful and intelligent of us. We are all looking for our soul mate, that perfect match. We want to find someone who is so much a part of ourselves that you cant tell each other apart anymore. Children are a huge part of the picture, which come only from our true love. Before all this begins, the dating must take place. The idea of dating women may first scare men, sending them into a total illogical frenzy. However, dating women is not nearly as difficult as the movies and male psyche have led you to believe. Women will appreciate small acts more than you may think. Random gifts, surprises, and phone calls are sure to make you look better in front of your gal. Cheesy lines, neglect, and a self centered attitude do not pay off.

If you have had your eye on an attractive lady for awhile, the worst thing you could possibly do is give her a cheesy come on line. No woman would ever fall for a line like “Do you know karate, because your body's kickin!”. Instead, give her a compliment on her hair or dress, and if you're feeling bold, strike up a conversation. Women don't want to date men who have nothing to say.

Once you've got the girl, don't mess it all up. She'll be horrified if you show up for a date smelly, ungroomed, and badly dressed. This behavior is frowned upon in any relationship. Instead, when you plan on seeing her, make an effort to wash up and put on clean clothes (that aren't outdated).

After you've begun dating women, you might have heard something like “You never surprise me”. A surprise from you shows a woman that you've been thinking about her, or planning for her. A small gift, given at a seemingly random time, will earn you dating women points. Chocolates or flowers, small necklaces (even inexpensive ones), given when she least expects it, will make her feel like a lovely doll.

Another surprise would be an extraordinary date. If your town has it, consider renting out a pair of horses to go riding. Tell her you just want to hang out, so she'll weary comfy clothes suitable for riding. When she shows up, at the park for example, a pair of waiting horses will be something delightfully unheard of in the art of dating women.

One of the things women dislike most in relationships is self-disorderedness. Sure, its okay to talk about sports, cars, and mechanics, but not as a steady diet. She might be surprised and pleased if you turn around and ask her about what she's reading, thinking, or feeling. No cheating, either. Listen to what she's saying or else she might bring the subject up later, and you won't remember anything.

Kindness, surprises, consideration, and cleanliness are all keys to your success in dating women.

Dating Internet service

I had always thought that the very idea of using a dating Internet service was pathetic. How desperate was I? How did it come to this? In college, I had been very popular with the ladies. Not a single semester would go by where I would not have at least three or four girlfriends. I dated recreationally, playing the field as it were. I could turn on the charm at will. I never had any trouble getting girls.

Now I was using a dating Internet service, and I felt pathetic about it. You see, it'd been a hard several months. I had just broken up with my girlfriend of three years. I had spent a good deal of time sitting around and moping, feeling bad for myself. Now, I thought I was ready to move on. The problem was, I just couldn't seem to meet anyone. I'd go to bars and feel painfully awkward. All the old charm and social ease was gone. I decided to try an Internet dating service as a last resort.

Now I'm no yokel. I have high speed Internet, I check my e-mail several times a week, and in general I'm pretty well-connected. Just the same, however, I've never been able to get used to the idea of using the Internet as a primary means of communication. You see, I'm not even very comfortable over the phone. I certainly wasn't comfortable with putting my picture up on the dating Internet services website, along with a whole host of personal profile information. It seemed like a bad idea to me, but I decided that I have nothing to lose. I made my dating Internet service post and waited for results.

So far, I have pretty mixed feelings about the dating Internet service. More people contacted me that I would have thought. It really is very easy to get casual dates, but the problem is that people who use the dating Internet service are socially awkward. Many of them are uneasy about meeting in the first place, and when they do everything is pretty tense. Maybe it's just me. I was never all that ease with the dating Internet services myself. Nonetheless, I think I will stick around for awhile. The dating Internet service is just about all I've got going on anyway. Still, I don't think I'm going to hold my breath and wait for results. I'm skeptical to say the least.